When “Success” Stops Feeling Like Yours: Why So Many of Us Are Achieving the Wrong Goals
- Tricia Parido
- Sep 4
- 2 min read
You wake up, look at your calendar, and feel the weight of the week ahead pressing against your chest. Deadlines. Appointments. Lists.
And then… that voice creeps in:
“Why does none of this actually feel fulfilling?”
You’ve worked hard. You’ve achieved things. You’ve done what you were “supposed” to. So why does your soul feel like it’s still waiting to exhale?
At Turning Leaves®, we see this all the time. High-performing, deeply capable individuals... parents, professionals, helpers, healers... who’ve been chasing goals that were never really theirs to begin with.
We’re told early on that goals are the signposts of a meaningful life. Set them. Crush them. Post them. Repeat.
But what happens when those goals are:
Based on someone else’s values?
Rooted in trauma?
Created to avoid rejection, disappointment, or failure?
Just another mask we wear to look “together”?
That’s not self-development. That’s emotional survival in disguise.
This Month’s Real Focus:
At Turning Leaves®, we’re inviting you to hit pause! Not to abandon growth, but to redefine it.
This month’s theme inside our Insight & Impact Focus Group is Setting and Achieving Goals with Purpose... but not the kind you’ve been taught to measure.
We’re looking beneath the surface:
✔ Are you performing your life… or living it?
✔ Are your goals creating emotional freedom… or feeding internal pressure?
✔ Are you allowed to grow without abandoning your peace?
Week 1 is about identifying what’s driving you.
A New Way to Think About Goals:
We believe in aspirations!!! Not rigid, pass/fail outcomes.
Aspirations breathe. They move with you. They allow space for your humanity, your changes, your healing.
They’re not about how fast you can get there.
They’re about who you’re BEcoming along the way.
Want to Explore This Work With Us?
Our Insight & Impact Focus Group meets weekly to unpack the emotional, behavioral, and psychological pieces of personal evolution.
This isn’t cookie-cutter coaching or New Year’s resolution hype.
It’s about BEcoming the kind of person who lives with clarity, courage, and Total Emotional Performance™.
You can also listen to our free mini-masterclass this month: 👉 Just fill out the contact form and request to receive notification when it is released! (typically the 3rd or 4th week of the month)
🔗 Looking for something deeper?
Explore our companion blog on TriciaParido.com for the behind-the-scenes truths and a richer understanding of emotional performance: 👉 “When Performance Masquerades as Purpose” blog
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