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The Lies You Tell Yourself and Don’t Even Know It

A person walking through a cityscape with shadowy transparent versions of themselves whispering in their ear, reflecting self-doubt or inner dialogue. The person has a determined, grounded expression.

We all have that one thought we think is true.

The one that’s kept us “in line” or “safe.” The one that hums underneath our good intentions and emotional burnout. The one that never gets challenged because… it sounds just like us.

“I should’ve handled that better.” “If I don’t do it, it won’t get done.” “I’m too much.” “I’m not enough.” “I’ll get it together after this week.”

If any of those sound familiar, here’s what actually matters: They’re not your beliefs. They’re your borrowed script.


And most people don’t even realize they’re living by it until they break.


The Narrator in Your Head Is on Autopilot


Let’s zoom out for a second: your internal narrator has been whispering —sometimes screaming —its lines at you for years.


It was trained by your family, your school system, your culture, your traumas, and yes… your survival mechanisms. Not your truth.


And unless we pause to examine it, that narrator doesn’t update. It doesn’t evolve just because you know better. It only changes when you actively rewrite it.


But here’s the kicker: you can’t rewrite something if you don’t even realize it’s running the show.


That’s why so many high-achievers, caregivers, and overthinkers find themselves stuck in an emotional loop — burned out, undernourished, and confused about why “all the work” still isn’t fixing it.


What You Believe → Becomes How You Function


Let me offer you this reframe:

The language you use internally is the architecture of your emotional experience.


Your thoughts? They aren’t just noise. They’re the instructions your nervous system follows.


That means when your inner narrative is shaped by guilt, fear, or unconscious pressure… your body reacts accordingly.

  • Anxiety spikes.

  • Self-sabotage increases.

  • Shame becomes your background music.

  • And confidence? It shrivels.

Not because you’re broken. But because no one taught you that you’re allowed to challenge the narrator.


So... What Does Rewriting Look Like?

This isn’t about becoming some toxic-positivity robot who only thinks happy thoughts.

(If that worked, we wouldn’t be having this conversation.)


This is about strategic awareness. It’s about recognizing when your inner dialogue is keeping you from living, breathing, choosing, and enjoying your life in real time.


A woman sitting at a desk with scattered pages around her, crossing out sentences on a paper while writing new ones. One side of the room is gray and cluttered, the other side bright and clear.

Rewriting means asking:

  • “Who taught me to think this way?”

  • “What does this thought cost me emotionally?”

  • “Is this story still serving the version of me I want to be?”

  • “If I were rooted in truth and compassion, how would this thought change?”

It’s a process. But it’s also a practice.

Because emotional freedom doesn’t just happen. It’s built — word by word, belief by belief.


The Real Flex: Mental Precision Over Mental Control


Let’s cut through the noise: You’re not supposed to have perfect thoughts.

That’s not the goal.


The goal is to develop mental precision — the ability to observe, decode, and redirect the thoughts that no longer belong to the version of you who’s evolving.

Precision says: “I see it. I hear it. I’m choosing differently.” 

Control says: “Shut up, brain!” (Which never works.)


This is the core of what I teach inside my Total Emotional Performance™ method. Not just a mindset, but an inner language that performs under pressure.

Not just calm, but clarity in the chaos. Not just reframing — but real reconditioning.


You Don’t Need to Burn It Down—You Need to Rewrite It


So if you’re feeling like:

  • You’re constantly trying to “outwork” your inner critic

  • You’re exhausted by self-help hacks that don’t stick

  • You’ve grown, but your thoughts haven’t caught up...

...then consider this your moment. Not to rip yourself apart. But to pick up the pen.


Rewrite the damn story. With your real voice this time.


Ready to Go Deeper?


This month in the Insight & Impact Focus Group, we’ve been diving deep into the process of identifying and rewriting inherited narratives. But even if you’re not inside the room (yet), you can still take this step.


👉 Want to explore what emotional agility really looks like in your everyday life? 

Read the latest Total Emotional Performance™ blog "If Your Inner Voice Had a Face, Would You Punch It or Hug It? on TriciaParido.com — it’s where this work comes alive.

You don’t need to be a client to benefit. You just need to be done letting old scripts lead your next chapter.


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