Updated: Jun 11
The first step to loving yourself more is understanding that you need to do it. Why? Because self-love is the foundation for a happy and fulfilling life. It's the cornerstone upon which your happiness, success, and well-being are built. So if you're not feeling particularly loving towards yourself at the moment, don't worry. I’m here to help! Keep reading to learn how to love yourself more.
Get to Know Yourself
This step is about understanding who you are, what you want, and what makes you happy. It's about getting in touch with your wants, needs, and desires. And it illuminates where perfectionism, the internal pressure to perform, fear of failure, and the deep-seated need for control that are wreaking havoc on your relationships and life satisfaction.
This can be a difficult process because it requires introspection, but it's worth it.
Start by taking some time each day to sit quietly and reflect on your life. Consider your successes and failures, your strengths and weaknesses, and your likes and dislikes.
And by all means, do not skip over your composure. How you show up, your attitudes, behavior, and approach. Are they in alignment with how you want to see yourself and how you want to be seen by others?
As you get to know yourself better, you'll start to understand what makes you tick and what doesn't. And that knowledge will be invaluable as you put together a life recovery journey and plan for self-love.
Give yourself some TLC
TLC stands for "tender loving care." This step is all about taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. This requires a full understanding of what true life balance is, how to cultivate it, and how to maintain it. It is not always an easy task to do alone, so do feel free to explore The Balance Effect to create your version. Otherwise, to do this, you need to first make sure that your basic needs are being met. That means eating healthy foods, getting enough exercise, getting enough sleep, and spending time outdoors in nature. It also means taking breaks when you need them, saying "no" when you need to, and setting boundaries with others.
Make sure that you're doing something every day to make yourself happy. It doesn't have to be elaborate; just something that brings a smile to your face or makes you feel good inside. Maybe it's taking a bubble bath or reading your favorite book before bedtime. Whatever it is, make sure that you're doing at least one thing each day purely for the sake of enjoyment.
Be Confident in Who You Are!
When we are confident and content in who we are, we attract people who are attracted to that confidence and contentment. We also become better communicators and are more likely to have healthy relationships with clear boundaries. Learning to love ourselves gives us the strength to walk away from toxic relationships that are no longer serving us – something that is often much harder to do when we don't feel good about ourselves.
When we aren’t showing ourselves the love we deserve, it's easy to fall into unhealthy habits like overeating, not exercising, or substance abuse (like alcohol misuse) as a way to cope with stress or pain. But when we have a healthy relationship with ourselves, we are more likely to take care of our bodies and make choices that support our physical, mental, and emotional health. All healthy choices that lead to more energy, vitality, and overall wellness.
It takes time & practice to learn how to hear what your cognitive, emotional, and physical bodies are telling you. Hearing your internal voice of intuition & deciphering which outside voices hold true for YOU is difficult! Be patient & keep exploring all the wonderful things about YOU because once you do... you'll see just how special & deserving you are! You'll also realize that nobody can do a better job at taking care of you, than YOU!
I know this seems like a lot to take in and begin all on your own. That’s why I created this space! So you don’t have to! Let’s Schedule a time to chat! I'm here to walk you through YOUR life recovery journey toward life balance, Loving Your Physical Body, The Composure Method, Live For Yourself First, Learn to Live Free, and Evolve! Really ANY journey that meets YOUR unique needs.